Life!

Read an article in Life! this week.. Can't remember which day it is; should be either Mon or Tues. The writer totally catches my heart.

Something about 2 of his female friends, getting married to jerks. A thinks he can fool around before he gets married to the girl (cos "that's what guys do"; and the fiancee has to learn to get used to it), and B asked for a 24hr break to relive his bacherlorhood.

The contributor of this article is in a righteous mood, and he advocates telling these 2 female friends of his, just what kind of guys they were going to give their lives to.

Easy way out is to just sit and enjoy the wedding as guests, but as friends, the RIGHT way would be to tell these girls the harsh, but appropriate, truth, to protect them from being hurt by such lousy characters of their fiances, in future.

See.. I know I'm still sore, but I really keep wondering why the gals didn't tell me til I probed. Yes, put simply, you can just tell me: "Means you and them are not close enough la!" But I beg to differ. These are the very people with whom I share good times, bad times, wants, rants, and in all, my FRIENDS. It's a 2-way communication.

So, where's the righteousness? Your idea of protecting me is not to tell me the truth? This is 1 truth where ignorance is not bliss, cos in the long run, the girl gets hurt. The girl loses out.

Am I really wrong to think that everyone will do good deeds? Like informing your girlfriend if you know her boyfriend is a bad egg, and also because he tried to hit on you, and ask you sexually explicit qns?

Who's got more to lose anyway? You won't, cos when your friend realises the truth, she'll appreciate your help. Not your friend either, cos you're saving her a lifetime of lousy-men headaches. Win-win! Yes?

Or would you rather keep the truth to youself, see your poor girlfriend get cheated and played by the bus-third, for years to come? (assuming the girl, like my case, really didn't know the guy was actually like that)

Sigh.. conscience, anyone? It doesn't have to be a close friend for you to have a conscience.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not hypocritical. I still love my friends, I just can't come to terms with their (lack of) actions... as yet.

I think I assumed too much.